8.6.06
3 stories/ 10:18 AM
I was flipping a Chinese book that my sister borrowed yesterday at home, and I saw this statement by Han Fei Zi:
"楚王爱纤腰,野有饿死女" The story was that King of Chu had a fetish/ preference for girls with nice waistline. He proclaimed it and showed it openly about this thought of his. And in the end, there were females dying even in the countryside where the King is far away from. The moral of this short story is that every word and action of a leader carries weight and has lots of direct (eg: new orders, rules, working methods) and much more indirect impacts (speculations, rumours etc). Thus, he/she must speak or act with lots of caution. In short, he/she must reach the extent of 喜怒不形于色. This is not 虚伪 or wearing a mask, but a simple sense of professionalism as a leader. Well, that was what the writer of the book said, not I say one. :P
2nd story: I was nuah-ing at home on the sofa after pre-camp on Wednesday night. My mum came and wanted to chase me away, asking me to sit upright. So, as a usual practice, I ignore her "nagging", "scolding" and "threatening" and continue to nuah, nuah, nuah... My mum got real pissed with this slacker son of hers, and started to raise her voice. Yet, I did not move. At this moment, my sister came out and told my mum this: "Ma, you miss the chance to discipline him 20 years ago when he first started out to be like this. Now, its no use to scold him, beat him or discipline him anymore. It has already become a habit in him, and he knows exactly what you can do to him. Moreover, he's already a grown-up now. Too bad for you lor, when everyone was telling you about him in the past, you neglected it, now, you get it yourself..." 推己及人, 自有一番领悟
3rd Story: My dad sent me back to RH on Sunday afternoon. When we reached here, he came to my room to take a rest. Hmm, Lao Bit looks real old that day, old and tired. Many thoughts came to my mind when he was resting in my room. "one day, lao bit won't be there for me and the family anymore. Am I prepared to take over his role to head the family?" "My parents had fought hard to raised us up. What else should I do to let them worry less?"
For many years, I've been working hard to show it to my parents that I'm one who can handle situations, one who knows what's right and wrong, one who's strong. It's all done so to win their trust. Its not easy, coz my parents are very cautious in granting freedom. Thus, I have to do it step by step, bit by bit. Along the way, if serious mistakes were made, I'll have to start all over again. Its arduous, and sometimes I ask myself why I have to do this. But, somehow rather, there is an inner voice that tells me that I have to carry on with it no matter what.
Just hope that all my efforts pay well.
Anyway, 时候差不多了...
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